These are the Voices; these are the Lies!
Fear of others becomes a snare, but the one who trusts in the LORD is safe.
Proverbs 29:25
“The LORD is on my side; I will not fear: what can man do unto me?”
Psalms 118:6
The LORD is my light and my salvation; Whom shall, I fear? The LORD is the strength of my life; of whom shall I be afraid? Psalm 27:1.
No weapon that is formed against thee shall prosper; and every tongue that shall rise against thee in judgment thou shalt condemn. This is the heritage of the servants of the LORD, and their righteousness is of me, saith the LORD. Isa. 54:17
As a psychologist and minister I have counseled hundreds of people over the years in every walk of life. I have counseled people of different cultures, ethnicities, lifestyles, and we all have one thing in common. For the most part many lies have been spoken about us and to us from significant people in our lives. And because these people who spoke to us much negatively, we tend to believe that more than anything else.
There are two theories and the Psych-Social Construction of Reality. Lifespan development that describes the different stages of learning that people go through lifespan development starts from when one is born until one die. This theory discovered that we are all made up of positive and negative experiences in life. We’ve all had things spoken over us that created deception, low self-esteem, self-hate, and despising oneself. All of these positive and negative voices have shaped us to be who we are. The second theory Psych-Social Construction of Reality occurs and is shaped by not only our life experiences but through this lens we interpret life.
Why do we believe the Lies?
This subject is a very important topic to understand. We must realize that everything that manifests itself in the physical, emotional, or psychological has its roots in the spiritual. Everyone must consider what they are chasing in life and if it will last. The world offers dry wells from which people seek fulfillment. But Father God who is the fountain of living water offers an oasis in a very dry and desolate world. We in theological terms are triune. We are a spirit, which has a soul and lives in a body. We are spirit and we live on forever. We will live forever with Father God or we will live separated from Him. This reconciliation or separation is based on one premise, our freedom to choose either path. Our souls are our emotional and psychological make-up. Our soul reflects the type of psych-social construction of our reality. Lifespan development basically means that the life course for a person is developed and solidified through different life experiences. This is part of the make-up of our soul. Good and bad experiences are lived and relived again and again over our lifespan. This is considered our “collectiveness” of both good and bad life experiences. The manifestations of our experiences that make up our reality. This is our soul which consists of the good, the bad, and the ugly. The third piece of our being is called our body. Our body houses our spirit and our soul. Scripturally it is called a temple. This temple either holds a spirit that has been born again or a lost eternally. Once again, our spirituality or lack thereof is how we are wired together.
We Are Broken!
In 1 Corinthians 13:12 states that “For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror, but then face to face. Now I know in part, but then I will know fully, as I am fully known.” We know in part. We don’t understand all or even how trauma we experienced or still experiencing still affects us. It is through the progressive revelation by God’s spirit to our soul that we slowly begin to unravel all of the good, bad, and ugly in our lives. Jesus stated that through our relationship with Him and as we surrender to Him, we will begin to understand the TRUTH as Father God sees truth of our psych-social construction of our own reality and how it has affected us and those who are around us past and present. Jesus stated that, “you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.” John 8:32. It is that truth revealed to us in different stages of our lives that we begin to see how the web of trauma reveals the chains of our own darkness and its manifestations known as traumatic events.
Trauma basically is a brokenness that has resulted for mankind due to our rebellion against God. It’s our story, both personal and collective, that has been buried in the shadows of our own consciousness, and it plays time it again in our lives. Trauma creates a hard shell over us separating us from ourselves and others. Trauma consists of broken moments that trigger and resurface time and again in the darkness of our subconscious. Trauma creates a void, and an emptiness that can only be healed through the power of God.
Trauma as its basic conception, pushes one to become that which has been fractured. Remember the Samaritan woman at the well who met Jesus and she wanted to discuss religion. Christ discussed with her worship. She began discussing the differences between her faith to divert attention from her own fractured self. Here’s a woman that usually should collect water at the well in the morning with other ladies but because her life was so chaotic, no one was there to associate with her. She had many broken relationships. Many failed marriages. Even though her story isn’t complete, my years of experience of working with people that have fractured lives in multi-generational relationships I know their unending story that carried over many generations.
Trauma disrupts, and breaks down every spiritual, physical, emotional, and psychological form of communication and relationships that an individual has. I stated in the first teaching that trauma is never an individual act, but an act that involves many other people generational trauma, which we have named collective trauma that deals with multi-generational issues of rebellion and separation from God.
The Key to Success!
We must understand that we have to train our mind to listen to God’s voice. He says that his children know his voice. To understand more of God voice speaking to us we must Inundate ourselves in his word.
Therefore, I urge you, brothers, and sisters, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God—this is your true and proper worship. Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will. Rom. 12:1-2